Start Pros cons for dating someone

Pros cons for dating someone

Pro You will have a hand to hold on walks and during the scary parts of movies. And what if your date is neither a walker, a moviegoer nor a hand-holder?

Anyway, here are a couple of things to keep in mind going in.

Pro: Instead of meeting someone at the bar and waiting six months to find out they only listen to soulful deep house vocals and is “separated,” if you date somebody at work chances are you already know them, have seen them drunk, and share a lot of interests, goals, and a tax-bracket.

If you DO get with someone else, you’ll have to date him for at least two years just to dispel any “for a good time call” rumors. You’re sitting across from him at board meetings all coquettish, like, “we diiiiiiiid it last niiiiiiiiight” and what’s more romantic than secret lovers? Oh, you think you’re slick when you guys rode the train in together twice this week, even though he lives on the east side and you live on the west? I have an idea, why don’t you just announce it in the company newsletter? Pro: Your entire life becomes wrapped up in a tidy package between work, the bar, and his apartment.

Pro: Banging someone at work is a good way to offset the day-to-day doldrums of shoot-me-in-the-face data entry, gathering in the conference room for a depressing-ass sheet cake and apple juice birthday/baby/going away celebrations, and lunch meetings centered around “blue sky brainstorms” that really could have been cleared up in an e-mail. You think that little split at the end of the block where he goes in and you’re like,”oh, let me stop for a sec and check my voicemails at 8 a.m.” is fooling anyone? And Kate from Comms swears she heard your voice change when he got on the elevator. If you’re lucky, it’s all along the same bus line and there’s a grocery store on the way so you can get some errands done.

Pro: Working together completely eliminates the “should I call? ” dilemma because duh, you’re going to see him in 10 hours. Pro: It’s a really good idea to stick around afterhours and make out in the stairwell/supply closet/wherever.

Con: Holy shit you’re going to see him in 10 hours! That way, if your boss is giving you shit about some bullshit you can just look past him at the spot where you were fooling around last week, and be all, “heh.” Con: You can never bang anyone at work ever ever again, because you’ll be ‘the official sponsor of office blow jobs’ and every new male hire will give you that look.

As someone who spent all of her early twenties dating fellow journalists, I would never advise a young woman to follow my example.

I didn’t suffer any professional disasters, but I did have to deal with a lot of personal anxieties I might not have experienced otherwise…I don’t think it’s a total coincidence that I’ve been most professionally successful in the years since I instituted my ‘no journo’ dating rule.

I went through all that — for decades, in fact, a period during which I met men I liked and men I didn't.

A few might be keepers, I thought; others (many others! Along the way, I started compiling the pros and cons of dating.

I hope you'll have fun reading my yeas and nays below — and that you'll conclude, as I eventually did, there's no compelling reason not to start dating again.