Start Dating for the chronically ill

Dating for the chronically ill

My sister uses Ok Cupid so that men know she’s a 5’2 nudist with a penchant for folk songs.

“Don’t even tempt me.”That was Ashley Pierce’s response when her friend Tammi tried to set her up with Walter.

Having spent a good portion of the last 10 years in a Las Vegas hospital bed, Pierce didn’t even want to entertain the thought of dating. He never backed out.“I never thought someone would marry me with my conditions,” 26-year-old Pierce recently wrote in a Facebook status. Crohn’s Disease and ulcerative colitis—chronic inflammatory conditions that affect the gastrointestinal and digestive tracts and include complications ranging from abdominal cramps to malnutrition.

If they don’t want to go out with you after learning you have Crohn’s, Lupus, whatever–then that’s that. You have to be understanding of people when it comes to your chronic disease.

Understand that their first reaction probably will be “what the fuck? People can sense your uneasiness about your disease.

"And lets face it, depending on what [the illness] is, it could very well make you uncompetitive in the larger dating pool." Fortunately, there are a number of alternatives.

A new breed of dating site has emerged to play cupid for people with chronic diseases and disabilities.

After my initial 50% recovery in the first six months or so, slowly I went downhill again, until I finally became too sick to work or ignore what was going on any longer. The relaionship started out so classic; chubby goth nerd girl dates tall former football player.

Our story is a little different in that we were both healthy when we started dating and living together, and in the same year, we both had life-changing medical happenings, and not in the good way. I fell in love right away, and told him so, but it took him another year to decide he wanted me too. We hung out in our apartments with friends and at friends’ apartments, we cooked eachother food and drove around the city aimlessly, because we were too broke to go to bars, and we didn’t ever do the dinner and a movie thing.

Or they message her things like “PUT ON SOME CLOTHES, YOU HOMELESS HEATHEN” or “CAT STEVENS CAN SUCK IT, YOU HIPPIE.” You may want to try a similar strategy.

Whether you’re a profile on a dating site, or you’re chatting up a guy/girl on Facebook–make sure to drop the bomb before the first date. Why is it good to break the news online or even over the phone?

The author totally hits the nail on the head, especially the last part about when we seem angry.