Start Dating after relationship break up

Dating after relationship break up

Every break up feels like our own twisted versions of Romeo and Juliet.

“When you’ve gone from being ‘two’ to ‘one’ and you haven’t been alone for a very long time, it’s difficult to reformulate that sense of self and do things on your own – or with a stranger. ” Amanda says there’s also a bit of grief that comes with getting back on the dating cycle as well.

Amanda has counselled hundreds of individuals and couples, and, as a lecturer in psychosexual therapy and sexual health counselling at Sydney University, is an expert in the field.

Here, Amanda gives some stellar advice to help new singles build their confidence and emotional health after a long-term relationship breakup, and navigate the new dating rules. Anyone who’s recently broken up from a long-term relationship knows how emotionally scary facing a new life – sans your ex – can be.

“I thought the recent strange behaviour and care with his phone was because he was planning a big surprise for our anniversary. “It was too complicated a set of feelings; the fury, the devastation, the rehashing of our lives together in the middle of the night, questioning every lovely moment we’d shared.

It was a blur, but I emerged eight months later a stone heavier and feeling like I needed to do something to move on.” So Elizabeth tried online dating and, while she says it certainly had its frustrating moments, after eight months she met Andrew, 51 and they are planning to move in together in time for Christmas.

You may feel nervous, lack confidence, and if you have children, the thought of having a new partner or dating again can seem overwhelming and much more complicated.

But all of these feelings are completely normal, says Amanda.

After talking to him on the phone last night, I’ve come to the conclusion that he’s experiencing some sort of existential crisis. You can usually find her hanging out at a coffee shop, in a bookstore, or on a softball field.